Hey, guys welcome back so now that you have clicked the title, it means that surely you have felt that anxiety creeps in when you are losing control life or when you know you are compromising. YES! compromising affects your balance in life! In just a few moments you will realize how.
I felt the same it was only after I analyzed my friend who was somehow able to have everything in her control, that I realized where I was going wrong and I am here to share my secrets . Don’t worry its easier than you thought it would be!
Okay so lets begin by seeing why this is even a problem then we would break it down and finally find a suitable solution so make sure you are tuned in till the end.
How many times do we want something but just end up comprising? I am not just talking about a big fat goal. This is a trait and will reflect even in the smallest of our actions. So, answer this question, how many times do you give in and start losing control over your own life?
Lets start with a small example, suppose, you want to watch a particular movie in the theatre but the show timings are not matching you schedule so you compromise with a movie that you don’t want to see. Even though it was possible to talk and shift the schedule accordingly but you did not even try.
Another example , you are handling a particular project and you want to add a particular feature or element, but you dont try doing anything new and compromise with the previous ways just because your brain convinces you that its of no use , you wont be able to do this, it’s a waste of time and the list of excuses continues.
These are very small examples but when you reflect those qualities in small activities it becomes who you are. For a control freak like me, these can be the root cause of anxiety and frustration.So lets just dive in deeper.
One thing common in all the examples above is that each time you give in, you start living life lesser the way you want and eventually start living a passive life.
Reasons you start losing control over life.
When is it that you don’t try? When do you “COMPROMISE”?
See we tend to do such things because of our habit of not being able to steer away from the orthodox ways. Obviously doing anything new requires us to give extra efforts and we have this lazy attitude that stops us from doing so. Also even if you pass this speed breaker, you don’t try anything new because of fear and trust me when I say your brain has a whole new level of talent to build fearful thoughts that you didn’t even know were possible to exist.
Solutions to take back control!
now that you know the problem, I would suggest just for one day do everything as per you decided without putting your life on compromise and feel the magic. Just imagine living a life where you get to live the way you decide. Yes you have to be flexible, yes sometimes those fears are not made up but real. But something more important is that if you thought of doing something that is because you gave a thought to it and came to a conclusion that it is necessary to do it. For something you thought was important even for a very small fraction of your life is worth doing
So just go pick that book you always wanted to read, go learn that skill you wanted to build, go live your dreams and just stop giving in because dude you are the lead actor in your life so making sure it’s a blockbuster is your responsibility!!
If you want to improve and are not able to do so, read 4 mistakes stopping you from improving
also this article is good if you want to read it further.